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上午儿媳Esther请来了LYS team (lysartistrypro）doing the makeup 包括Hair，为新娘bride，新郎groom，Sister in Law, MOTG 也就是我化妆，在Long Beach Downtown WESTIN Hotel的一个豪华套间，经过4个小时的打造，我的化妆效果令自己吃惊，用儿子话说：Mom变成了我的香港妈！女儿的大波浪头发时尚性感，儿媳眼妆高级妩媚，儿子锃亮的小分头有些老成缺了点酷，但总之在灯光下被一个专业团队塑造你的容貌是一个独特的体验.
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下午所有亲戚朋友从四面八方聚集到Ebell Club，Ebell 建于1924年，是西班牙Churrigueresque-style architecture 建筑的典范，外观雕塑奢华，场所通过华丽的水泥装饰来演绎光影的变幻，从抛光的大理石入口到珍惜的柚木镶板，再到通风良好的餐厅和休闲室，气派非凡优雅，已被列为历史遗迹。 所有亲朋好友Fully dressed 到场照相，婚礼的内容我是一点不清楚只知道是个小型的不正规的婚礼完全由他俩自己设计组织，婚礼的当天我才看到了Wedding指南，令我Surprised整个流程安排井井有条，从wedding planner，Vendor Roles: photographer，Ceremony musician，DJ/MC，Florist，Officiant，到Cake，Cookies等等，他们俩在整个为自己的婚礼设计中沁住了心血和热情，我带着期望和好奇走进了Ebell，此刻整个大厅被鲜花环绕，顿时幸福感扑面而来。
女儿招呼：妈爸轮到你们照相了……5:15 序曲prelude，DJ-unplugged ceremony announcement, 6点钟仪式开始 live musicians - 音乐凑起，吉他大提琴手是他们的邻居Laura弹唱歌曲《Dreams 》这是Esther 最喜欢的歌，儿媳以前提起过，朋友Laura是一个做音乐的日本女孩这是她给新娘新郎的礼物，好吧，歌词我也听不懂但音乐的节奏很动情感觉是一个女孩在畅想未来，随后司仪Joshua宣布婚礼正式开始，Joshua是他们的朋友从San Francisco飞过来的帅哥来给他们主持这场婚礼，
女儿招呼：妈爸轮到你们照相了……5:15 序曲prelude，DJ-unplugged ceremony announcement, 6点钟仪式开始 live musicians - 音乐凑起，吉他大提琴手是他们的邻居Laura弹唱歌曲《Dreams 》这是Esther 最喜欢的歌，儿媳以前提起过，朋友Laura是一个做音乐的日本女孩这是她给新娘新郎的礼物，好吧，歌词我也听不懂但音乐的节奏很动情感觉是一个女孩在畅想未来，随后司仪Joshua宣布婚礼正式开始，Joshua是他们的朋友从San Francisco飞过来的帅哥来给他们主持这场婚礼，
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我和老马在掌声中率先缓缓走进会场，后面是我的儿子Raymond-今天的新郎，台下一片尖叫，儿子的笑容比他的小分头还灿烂，随后全体起立，新娘Esther和她的父亲Stanley走下楼梯，Raymond深深地鞠躬从Esther父亲的手中牵过了他的新娘，双方父母为他们点上蜡烛，Officiant致词，新娘新郎交换誓言，新郎深情地对新娘说：
Esther, as much as you'd like to deny it, we are in fact quite alike. One of the many ways I know we're good together is that for some reason, despite the bright Los Angeles sunshine, we've both said we prefer the misty fog. In some ways, that just doesn't make any sense. Fog can be a little depressing; it's damp, it's hazy, it's hard to see. We've seen and met plenty of strange people in the hazy fog that's the LA dating scene. Unapologetic ghosters. Frogs/toads masquerading as princes. Even people who unironically extoll the virtues of Hillsong concerts and acai bowls on a first date, but also people who had no idea how to pronounce the word acai (or gnocchi)
And yet despite all that, we managed to find each other in this hazy fog. As we stand here in front of friends and family, doing our best to masquerade as adults who know what we're doing, when really, we can barely see a meter or a day in front of us, I'm so grateful to have you still here by my side. You keep us moving even if we're uncomfortable, because we simply need to. You keep us striving for more than I think we can do, because you know that we can. You dare dream of things I haven't even considered because on our behalf, you keep asking "why not us." You're always ready to give us a heading when we're lost and the path's not clear, and for that, I'm grateful, even if you can still never figure out if we're on the 405 or the 110.（LA的高速公路）
You've heard this before, but hear it from me:
As some of your favorite artists have written, you're nothing short of magical and beautiful to me, and I'll never hit the big time without you. Where you lead, I will follow, anywhere that you tell me to. Who's to say where we end up tomorrow, but it's fine, as long as I'm with you.
We have a friend who told us that marriage isn't just choosing to be with someone once or twice, but it's waking up every day and choosing to keep moving forward with that person all over again. I choose you under the blistering sun, in the dark night, and every shade of foggy grey in between.
Brandi Carlile （美国歌手唱的一首歌歌词）：“You're nothing short of magical and beautiful to me，I'll never hit the big time without you...”
Carole King （美国歌手音乐家的一首歌名）：“Where you lead I will follow”
Esther饱含热泪：Raymond, it's hard to encompass how much you've changed my heart and mind over the last two and half years, but I'm going to give it a try. I once heard a cynical take on vows, that the spouse usually focuses on herself, but I can't talk about how wonderful of a person you are without giving you credit for how much you ve changed me.Summary, you've taught me Patience - Gratitude
Patience, you are a living representation of how life is a marathon, not a sprint. When I am quick to frustration and anger, you're right there next to me asking questions and giving the benefit of the doubt. You've truly made me a better person, softened my heart, and taught me that a life well lived is the ultimate satisfaction. You are so patient, not only with me, but with everyone around you.
Even when your dad asks you to fix each of his broken car windows, you never once get frustrated, you do it because he asked and you know how.
Gratitude: one of the things I love the most about you is the gratitude you have for the every day pleasures in life. You wake up every day so grateful for the opportunities and privileges we have, not only in our health, but the gratitude you have for the life that we've built together. Where I see shortcomings and mistakes, you genuinely see as opportunities for us to get better. And when I get scared that we can't overcome an obstacle, you remind me to take comfort in the fact that we have one another and we can always improve。
I vow to: Not leave: stay for the fights, stay for the learnings, commit to getting better as a team.
Support you in your dreams. I know how big your dreams are and I'm determine to get you there, little by little.
Bake you bread ...
他们拥抱接吻，好感动呢，全场掌声祝福！在交换对戒时，司仪给大家讲了关于对戒的故事：
“Raymond的太爷爷，曾是一位才华横溢的建筑商人，在当年声名远播。然而，六十年代那场让人难以回首的文化大革命席卷而来，曾经辛苦打拼得来的产业在一夜之间被没收，房屋、财产全数充公。富裕成了一种“原罪”，稍有反抗便是牢狱之灾。当时，家中所有贵重物品几乎都被搜走，只有一根特殊的金条幸免于难。那是一根细长的金条，由四股金丝紧紧缠绕而成，舅爷冒着极大的风险，将它藏进了办公室抽屉的夹层里，还加上了一把锁。多年以后，这段被尘封的历史才由奶奶慢慢讲起——那根金条也被重新带入阳光下。她将其中的四分之一，郑重地交给了Raymond的父亲。今年年初，在Raymond与Esther订婚之际，父亲把那段家族的记忆、那份沉甸甸的历史，以及那截珍贵的金条，一同交到了Raymond的手中。一个月前，Raymond和Esther亲手将它锤炼、打造，铸成了他们的结婚对戒——不仅象征着承诺与爱情，更铭刻着一段跨越年代、穿越风雨的家族传承。”
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仪式结束Mark和我一一感谢前来参加儿子婚礼的他们的同事，邻居，同学和亲朋好友，其中一组儿子每年参加BattleBots TV show机器人比赛的团队，队长captain Jamison 带着team Sawblaze队员从全美各地赶来，Sawblaze曾赢了2023 World Championship II的US 冠军.
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还有从纽约过来的Esther的母亲一方的多位亲属，因为Esther的母亲在她16岁时因病去世所以她妈妈的亲人对她尤为重要，他们的邻居们大都是跟他们背景相似的年轻人，他们因买房相识邻里之间产生友情，一起庆祝楼里第一个出生的孩子，一起庆祝各种节日，相互照顾帮助……还有他们工作的同事…
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| 我们结婚了 |
8点reception开始，在丰盛的晚餐中我作为新郎的代表第一个发言：
尊敬的各位来宾、亲朋好友们：Dear family and friends, 大家晚上好！ Good evening!
请原谅我用中文发言，因为有些母亲的情感，只有用母语表达才最真切。 （Wei 帮我翻译）
Please forgive me for starting in Chinese — because sometimes, a mother’s feelings are best expressed in her native language.
尊敬的各位来宾、亲朋好友们：Dear family and friends, 大家晚上好！ Good evening!
请原谅我用中文发言，因为有些母亲的情感，只有用母语表达才最真切。 （Wei 帮我翻译）
Please forgive me for starting in Chinese — because sometimes, a mother’s feelings are best expressed in her native language.
Today is a joyful and emotional day as we celebrate the marriage of my son Raymond and my daughter-in-law Esther.感谢大家来到这里，见证他们人生中最重要的时刻。 Thank you all for being here to witness this beautiful moment.回想起Raymond小时候，就像是昨天的事。他认真、聪明、爱思考，总能带来惊喜。It feels like just yesterday that Raymond was a little boy — thoughtful, smart, always full of surprises.他四岁那年，我带他从中国绕道日本来美国与他在美国读书的父亲相聚，那次我们误了航班，身上只有40美元，也不会日语，没有信用卡。
When he was four, we traveled from China to the U.S., transiting through Japan. We missed our flight, had only $40, no Japanese, and no credit card.在我手足无措的时候，是他像个小男子汉一样安慰我、给我主意。And in that moment of panic, it was little Raymond who calmed me, gave ideas, and acted like a little man.
我们终于住进了旅馆，我紧紧地抱着他，他骄傲地说：“妈妈，你以后就靠我吧。” When we finally got a hotel room, I hugged him tightly. He proudly said, “Mom, from now on, you can rely on me.” 然后他穿上旅馆的和服，非常认真地对我说：“我们结婚吧。” Then, he put on the hotel’s yukata, looked at me seriously, and said, “Let’s get married.”
当然啦，幸好他等了30年，找到了真正适合他的姑娘。 Well… thankfully, he waited 30 years and found someone *far* more suitable! 从小学到大学、再到博士，Raymond总是不断地给我们惊喜。 From elementary school to college to PhD, Raymond always amazed us.有一次他因为作文得奖，我们全家被请到市政厅，市长向大家介绍我们：“他们是Raymond的父母，来自中国北京。” One day, he won an essay award and we were invited to City Hall. The mayor introduced us as “Raymond’s parents, from Beijing, China.”
我当时热泪盈眶，市长还送我们一面曾在美国国会大厦升过的国旗。 I had tears in my eyes. The mayor even gave us a flag that had flown over the U.S. Capitol. 那一刻我深深感受到：虽然是我把他带来了美国，但是真正让我与这个国家连结起来的，是我12岁的儿子 That moment made me realize — I brought him to America, but it was my 12-year-old son who truly brought me into this country.
When he was four, we traveled from China to the U.S., transiting through Japan. We missed our flight, had only $40, no Japanese, and no credit card.在我手足无措的时候，是他像个小男子汉一样安慰我、给我主意。And in that moment of panic, it was little Raymond who calmed me, gave ideas, and acted like a little man.
我们终于住进了旅馆，我紧紧地抱着他，他骄傲地说：“妈妈，你以后就靠我吧。” When we finally got a hotel room, I hugged him tightly. He proudly said, “Mom, from now on, you can rely on me.” 然后他穿上旅馆的和服，非常认真地对我说：“我们结婚吧。” Then, he put on the hotel’s yukata, looked at me seriously, and said, “Let’s get married.”
当然啦，幸好他等了30年，找到了真正适合他的姑娘。 Well… thankfully, he waited 30 years and found someone *far* more suitable! 从小学到大学、再到博士，Raymond总是不断地给我们惊喜。 From elementary school to college to PhD, Raymond always amazed us.有一次他因为作文得奖，我们全家被请到市政厅，市长向大家介绍我们：“他们是Raymond的父母，来自中国北京。” One day, he won an essay award and we were invited to City Hall. The mayor introduced us as “Raymond’s parents, from Beijing, China.”
我当时热泪盈眶，市长还送我们一面曾在美国国会大厦升过的国旗。 I had tears in my eyes. The mayor even gave us a flag that had flown over the U.S. Capitol. 那一刻我深深感受到：虽然是我把他带来了美国，但是真正让我与这个国家连结起来的，是我12岁的儿子 That moment made me realize — I brought him to America, but it was my 12-year-old son who truly brought me into this country.
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Duoduo — that’s your nickname — no matter how far you go, your mother’s love is always with you.但从今天开始，我更希望你把更多的爱、耐心和温柔，给你身边的这个女孩。 But from today, I hope you give your deepest love and care to the amazing woman beside you.婚姻不仅是爱，更是责任，是承诺，是一起成长。Marriage is not just about love — it is about commitment, responsibility, and growing together. Esther谢谢你走进Raymond的生命，也走进我们的家庭。Esther, my dear daughter-in-law, thank you for stepping into Raymond’s life — and into our family.
从今天起，你不仅是儿媳，更是我的女儿。From today on, you are not just my daughter-in-law — you are my daughter.你开朗热情，与Raymond的安静内向，正好互补，像拼图一样合得刚刚好。You are warm and outgoing — a perfect balance to Raymond’s quiet nature. Like two puzzle pieces, you just fit.
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我想对你们俩说：To both of you, I say:婚姻就像一棵树，需要两人共同浇灌，才能枝繁叶茂。 Marriage is like a tree — it flourishes only when both nurture it.愿你们少一些计较，多一些理解；May you have less arguing, and more understanding;愿你们不仅有烟火日常的温暖，也有风雨同舟的坚定。May your love thrive not only in peaceful days, but also in difficult ones.愿你们把平凡的日子，过成一首温柔的诗。And may you turn ordinary days into a gentle poem of life.最后，借用一句老话：“百年修得同船渡，千年修得共枕眠。” Let me end with an old Chinese saying:
“It takes a hundred lifetimes to share a boat, a thousand to share a pillow.”愿你们珍惜这段缘分，一生相守、白头偕老。May you treasure this bond and grow old together, hand in hand.
也祝愿在座的亲友们家庭幸福、万事如意！ And to everyone here — may your homes be full of love, and your lives full of joy! 谢谢大家！ Thank you!
“It takes a hundred lifetimes to share a boat, a thousand to share a pillow.”愿你们珍惜这段缘分，一生相守、白头偕老。May you treasure this bond and grow old together, hand in hand.
也祝愿在座的亲友们家庭幸福、万事如意！ And to everyone here — may your homes be full of love, and your lives full of joy! 谢谢大家！ Thank you!
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我没想到我会这么紧张，很多地方措辞颠倒，还好Wei 淡定语音温柔祥和弥补了我的尴尬，感谢老妹儿！我的发言首先感动了我自己，说的我泪流满面，后来很多老美都来向我祝贺夸奖了我的发言，儿媳说后来他们party结束回到hotel喝酒都在讨论我的发言..（算是给老马家增光添彩了） Esther父亲和他们的朋友也发了言（我都没听懂）
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| 邻居们 |
儿子的结婚不仅是个人感情的归宿，更承载着家族的延续，文化的传承和社会的连接，祝福新人！祝我儿儿媳百年好合！祝老马家早生贵子或早获千金！洛杉矶的天很蓝，Long Beach很静，《世界赠与我》那首歌反复地在我的心中歌唱，...世界赠予我虫鸣 也赠予我雷霆，赠我弯弯一枚月 也赠予我晚星，有人唱情歌 有人听晚钟，借一丝懵懂 惊一片翻涌，追一追 赶一赶 情正浓，有人要回望 有人要憧憬，借一朵白云 拍一张合影，想一想 问自己 莫打听，远去者去了远方 愿他都安心......
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